Always Focus on Interests, Not Positions
Invariably, the two of you are going to run into conflict virtually every day for the rest of your lives (between roommates, bosses, fellow employees, teachers, family members, neighbors, etc.). But don’t worry, it’s not personal–it’s just part of the human condition. Everyone (including the two of you) is hardwired for self-interest–which means that, at [...]
Master the Different Myers-Briggs Temperaments
As you both know, I’m a huge fan of the Myers-Briggs Type Inventory® (MBTI®), but what you may not know is why. Back in the early years of my former career, I was getting tired/exhausted from all the conflict. No matter what the subject, it seemed like someone always disagreed–which often lead to letters (this [...]
If You Want to Get Where You Want to Go Faster, Plan
I know that the two of you have a personality preference for spontaneity over planning, for acting by the “seat of your pants” vs. taking intentional and deliberate pre-thought steps, but if you want to get where you want to go faster or accomplish something faster, then you’ll want to add planning and project management [...]
As Within, So Without
If there’s ever anything that you’re not happy with or want to change on the outside of your life, then the place where you need to begin the process of changing it is on the inside—not the outside. Why? Because of the Law of Correspondence. What is the Law of Correspondence? It’s an essential life [...]
There is No Success Without Sacrifice
As I’ve mentioned before, most people like the idea of being better or being more successful or being fit or being happy or being in a great relationship—but yet they don’t really want those things—despite what they might say. Why do I say that? Because they’re not willing to do what’s necessary to obtain the [...]
Intentionally Hang With People Better Than You
In general, the two of you have done very well in your choice of friends over the years. You’ve heard and understood the principle that the people you hang with, influence and shape the person you become. And, as you’ve probably come to conclude, when you’ve gone through some rough patches over the years, it’s [...]
95% is 5% Too Short
As you’ve probably already noticed, most people are content with doing less than a 100%. They’ll do “just enough” and be happy with that—but “just enough” is not enough if you want to be at a top performer (whether that’s at work or at home or at church or for a non-profit). In fact, let [...]
Make Execution One of Your Core Competencies
As an employee, there are few more important reputations you can acquire than this one, “She gets things done!” Despite what you may want to think, the primary reason anyone gets hired is because another person (boss/owner/executive/manager etc.) wants to achieve a result–and they need someone else to help them achieve that result. No owner [...]